Our sexuality is the foundation of who we are as human beings and having confidence around that part of ourselves can affect our confidence in other areas of our lives.
I join Talia Lazarus on her podcast I Got Back Up to talk about our sexuality and how we can hold a lot of shame. This shame can make us shut down, close off and not be open to the world around us, disconnecting and hiding. Being aware of where we hold shame around our sexuality and no longer being triggered or afraid of experiencing it, and bringing that awareness, being able to fall in love with your own body, fully accepting that part of ourselves enables us to have a lot of confidence in being intimate with others.
All human beings want the same thing, a deeper connection, we have just all been conditioned differently. We are triggered and react to different things, and most of the time it is nothing personal to you when your partner is triggered, it is probably something from the past. So, how do we learn how to be vulnerable, be clear on what we do and don’t want, set firm boundaries and share our thoughts and emotions from a place of self-responsibility, all whilst learning to love ourselves and appreciate what we see in the mirror.
Carla Crivaro is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, she works with men and women internationally to reach their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla helps men and women understand themselves and each other, sexually and relationally, in and out of the bedroom. You can reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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