"Penises - WTF do you do with them?"
Carla Crivaro 2017
My relationship to penises used to be...
… complicated.
I never really knew what to do with a penis. I don’t have one and I never really plucked up the courage to ask a guy.
I just let him guide me with his hand what he wanted me to do.
They always seemed so... delicate!
That was until I went on a journey of self-discovery around my own sexuality and also understanding men better.
I first ran this workshop at a women’s festival. Out of the four workshops I did, this was the most popular and literally had women spilling out of the tent trying to learn. Which is why I’m bringing it to any woman who wants to try it.
The struggle...
Before learning about cock worship and men:
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I lacked confidence in touching their bodies and their genitals
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Second guessed myself
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Felt I wasn’t enough
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Felt limited in my skill set
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Didn’t really understand men’s behaviour and would often take it personally to mean something about me and my worth
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Lacked the language to talk to them about sex
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Didn’t know about the different parts of the genitals and how different men experience touch in those places differently
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My lack of knowledge in this area impacted how sexually free and open I was because I would get in my head
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Sex would feel very samey and clumsy
Why this mattered for me...
After learning about cock worship and men:
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I know what to ask each new lover the specific areas that can feel very different for each man
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Men feel seen and understood and comfortable with me sexually because I’m a safe space for them to open
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I feel confident that if I ‘get it wrong’ that it’s not me - there was a step missed in communication somewhere which can happen and that’s OK
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I enjoy touching men for my OWN pleasure and curiosity
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I feel comfortable speaking to men about sex
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I don’t make any sexual encounter mean anything about me, my worth or who I am as a sexual being
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I feel more connected to my wild and erotic self and have embraced my inner-slut
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Sex now has so many possibilities for exploration that it’s a place for play and connection
In this session I will be taking my learnings from training in men’s sexuality and from my work with men, to help you understand more about their bodies, anatomy of arousal, their biggest sexual organ (brain) and show you a few new strokes along the way.
This session will be informative, educational and fun.
You will go away feeling more confident with what to do with a man’s appendage and how to communicate with him better around sex.
As part of this workshop I have teamed up with Helen Taylor for us all to do some penis painting of… incense dicks (incense sticks penis shaped)!
How the afternoon will look...
1pm - meet and greet with women’s circle
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1.30pm - ceramic penis painting with life caster Helen Taylor. The penis is actually an incense stick (or incense dick!). Once it has been painted Helen will take it back to her studio to be fired. You have the option to go to her studio to pick it up at a later date or pay for postage separately for it to be delivered. Postage is £6 and can be paid on the day.
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3pm education around men’s genitals, we will be exploring our relationship to men’s appendage - what our thoughts really are about them, where they have come from, what our feelings are. Please note there will be photos of real penises of various different shapes, sizes and states of arousal.
We will be looking at men’s anatomy of pleasure and you will get to learn new strokes and techniques for touching all aspects of a man’s genitalia.
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4.15 - closing circle
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4.30 - 4.45pm - you will be welcome to stay and chat during this time. Myself and Helen will be packing up and tidying away
WHEN &WHERE...
When:
Sunday 4th October, 1pm until 4.30pm
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Where:
The Space, Cocker Ave, Poulton Industrial Estate, Poulton, FY6 8JU
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Investment:
£68
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Why is there an application process?
We want to ensure that there is the right vibe in the room so that everyone feels safe and able to relax.
“I’ve been meaning to message you to say your two workshops I did were amazing. Your energy and vibes are lovely too. Something like a cock worship workshop that could easily turn seedy just wasn’t at all.”
- festival participant
WHAT TO BRING...
What to bring:
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Yoga mat
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Journal/paper & pen
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Drink
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Dildo with suction cup and testicles (apparently there are cheaper options on Amazon. I have this one)
To get the most out of this session it’s strongly recommended that you bring a dildo to practice on. Further details below in 'what to bring'. You're welcome to email me the link to the one you're thinking of buying to check it's the right one. Email at hello@carlacrivaro.com
“Thank you so much Carla. Loved all your workshops. You delivered each one with such care and made me feel very comfortable and it was easy to be open and honest with you and everyone. Didn’t quite know what to expect, but omg the sessions were amazing. Thank you.”
- festival participant
Your hostess
Carla Crivaro
I started out as a sexually repressed, stay at home mother and wife with chronic anxiety, low self-worth and deep-rooted insecurities in all relationships from working to familial to romantic.
I went on to experience an 'awakening' which took me on a path of self-discovery. This awakening led me to explore non-monogamy with my then husband and experience a more embodied connection to myself and my sexuality.
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As well as certifying as a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach I trained in Men's Sexuality & Masculinity which deepened my understanding of men, their emotional and physical experience of the world, relationships and sex. Not only impacting my own personal relationship with them, but also how I work with them professionally and also sharing those learnings with female clients and my female community.
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I have been featured in The Telegraph, where I shared my journey from playing the ‘good girl’ to unapologetically claiming my desires and stepping into the work I do today. It’s a story of breaking free from silence, shedding shame and choosing authenticity - even when it triggers others. I'm also frequently a contributor to media requests for experts.
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With an international reach and supporting clients from over 10 countries including USA, UK, Australia, Spain, Germany, Switzerland, Italy, UAE, Chile, Columbia, Brazil, I am making a global impact in the lives and loves of many.
FAQ​​
• Is this suitable if I’ve experienced sexual trauma?
Yes, we will be taking this slow and guiding you to listen to your body’s cues.
• Will this be explicit?
The presentation will show parts of the male anatomy for education. If you bring a dildo you can choose to practice the strokes in real time.