You both feel it.
That quiet knowing that there is more here.
More connection.
More depth.
More truth in your bodies than you’ve been shown how to reach.
There’s a deeper current calling you both.
She wants to soften fully in his hands.
To open without managing, without guiding, without holding it all together.
He wants to lay down the pressure.
To stop performing, leading, striving and finally feel himself being met, received, chosen.
You both want to know what happens when intimacy isn’t a role…
but a place where you meet together.
Where touch isn’t rushed.
Where nothing is demanded.
Where both of you get to unravel the layers you’ve worn for years… the good partner, the capable one, the strong one, the pleasing one.
In this space:
She learns how to surrender into deeper sensation, deeper softness, deeper trust.
He learns how to receive without armour, without expectation, without needing to be anything.
And in the giving and the receiving, something else unfolds…
A new way of seeing each other.
A new safety in being witnessed.
A new depth of desire that comes from emotional presence, not performance.
This is not just about learning touch.
It’s about discovering who you are underneath the roles you’ve both been playing.
Together.
This is your journey to unravelling.
Most couples only experience one side of intimacy, either giving or receiving.
Unravelling is different. Unvravelling is bringing together both of my Unravel Him & Unravel Her courses together.
You both learn:
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How to guide each other into deep relaxation
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Develop your emotional attunement and create safety
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The anatomy of both male and female arousal
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How the nervous system affects connection and pleasure
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How to communicate about desires and experiences
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How to create intimacy that feels safe, slow and deeply connected
When you both understand touch, response and communication, what happens is…
Less guessing.
Less pressure.
More presence.
More trust.
More closeness.
This bundle includes:
Unravel Him & Unravel Her courses which include:
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Educational modules on arousal for both bodies
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Real interviews and perspectives
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Journalling prompts to invite you to build your self-awareness
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Communication practices to deepen connection after the experience
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A shared language around intimacy
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Audio and video practices
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Web based discussion forum within the course to share your learnings, experience and questions
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Support around emotions and sensation language
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Be guided through 2 intimate massages, 1 for him, 1 for her
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One hour total 1-1 with Carla Crivaro on Zoom to seek support, advice and reflections
You won’t just learn how to touch.
You’ll learn how to understand each other.
Begin your unravelling now…
Through my 1-1 work coaching couples...
I guide men and women to mutual understanding. Acknowledging that we are different and working with that to complement each other. My couples work is about rebuilding trust that can be felt in the body, it’s about meeting each other more deeply, it’s about a connection that doesn’t feel performative but feels aligned. It’s a journey that brings them into the being the individuals that can create a relationship that truly feels cherished and safe.
Course Outline Unravel Her
MODULE 1: WELCOME & INTENTION
You are welcomed to the course and given guidance on how to use it, what the benefits are for couples and for understanding female sexuality and pleasure. You are invited to explore individual and joint intentions through intimate communication exercises designed for you to take your initial steps into vulnerability.
This is a self-study course which can be done at your own pace. With a total of four modules which are released at a gentle pace. You can move through the content as slowly as you like and you are invited to revisit the content as new layers of conditioning and patterns unfold.
MODULE 2: FEMALE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE
In this module you are invited to explore the female anatomy of pleasure. Understanding the various parts of the female anatomy of arousal can, for both men and women, open up the possibility to discover where pleasure can be found in ways not considered or in different capacities. Sex, intimacy and relationship experts share their personal journeys with their own individual relationships to women's pleasure.
MODULE 3: PUSSY MASSAGE
The pussy massage is an opportunity for both men and women to remove the goal-oriented sex of orgasm and performance to please and to experience what it means to be present in pleasure. The communication exercises accompanying this practice enable both partners to bring awareness to their own conditioning around sex, female orgasm and where they feel limited in their current sexual experiences.
MODULE 4: THANK YOU & NEXT STEPS
This module invites you to reflect on your journey during this mini-course and how you would like to as individuals or as a couple explore further your sexuality. This module unlocks offers and discounts on my other offerings. It is at this stage that you get 1-1 call with Carla to discuss any challenges or desires that came up for you and further guidance if needed.
Investment will be £148. Introductory pricing NOW for the month of February of
£98
Course Outline
Unravel Him
MODULE 1: WELCOME & INTENTION
You are welcomed to the course and given guidance on how to use it, what the benefits are for couples and for understanding male sexuality and pleasure. You are invited to explore individual and joint intentions through intimate communication exercises designed for you to take your initial steps into vulnerability.
This is a self-study course which can be done at your own pace. With a total of four modules which are released at a gentle pace. You can move through the content as slowly as you like and you are invited to revisit the content as new layers of conditioning and patterns unfold.
MODULE 2: MALE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE
In this module you are invited to explore the male anatomy of pleasure. Understanding the various parts of the male genitalia can, for both men and women, open up the possibility to discover where pleasure can be found in ways not considered or in different capacities. Sex, intimacy and relationship experts share their personal journeys with their own individual relationships to their bodies.
MODULE 3: PENIS MASSAGE
The penis massage is an opportunity for both men and women to remove the goal-oriented sex of erection and ejaculation and to experience what it means to be present in pleasure. The communication exercises accompanying this practice enable both partners to bring awareness to their own conditioning around sex and where they feel limited in their current sexual experiences.
MODULE 4: THANK YOU & NEXT STEPS
This module invites you to reflect on your journey during this mini-course and how you would like to as individuals or as a couple explore further your sexuality. This module unlocks offers and discounts on my other offerings and you get to book in your 30 minute conversation with me for extra support and guidance.
Investment will be £148. Introductory pricing NOW for the month of February:
£98
If the idea of exploring each other more deeply feels exciting… and slightly vulnerable
That’s exactly the doorway this course walks you through… together.
Most couples don’t struggle with attraction.
They struggle with how to slow down, open up and explore without awkwardness, pressure or guessing.
You might both be wondering…
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“What if we discover we want different things?”
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“What if I feel exposed?”
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“What if I don’t know how to communicate what I feel in my body?”
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“What if this becomes intense emotionally?”
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“What if we realise we’ve been rushing intimacy for years?”
There’s often a quiet shared thought:
“We want deeper intimacy… but we don’t have a map for getting there safely.”
That’s what Unravelling becomes.
This isn’t just two massage courses put together.
It’s a guided experience in:
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Learning how to give and receive without roles or pressure
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Understanding both bodies’ arousal anatomy and not guessing but knowing
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Creating emotional safety so physical openness can follow
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Communicating desires in ways that feel natural, not clinical
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Processing what comes up after intimacy, not ignoring it
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Discovering parts of yourselves and each other that you haven’t met before
You’ll both be beginners.
You’ll both be learners.
You’ll both be receivers.
That’s why this experience changes couples, not just their sex life but how safe they feel being seen.
This is where intimacy stops being something you ‘do’…
and becomes something you discover together.
FAQs
How are a penis massage and pussy massage different to a handjob or fingering?
A handjob is normally with the intent to get a man erect or get him to orgasm or ejaculate. A penis massage is about learning to slow down the contact with a man's genitals, taking away the need for a man to 'perform' giving him the opportunity to be in his pleasure and present with whatever is coming up for him without needing to change or be anything different. It can be an extremely healing experience for a couple to interact with a man's genitals from this perspective. The penis massage spends quite some time focusing on strokes while the penis is flaccid to support the couple in relating to a flaccid penis in a positive way instead of there being 'something wrong'. There are many different strokes and ways of touching the penis and genitals that will likely be different for both of you, opening up new approaches to touch.
'Fingering' is normally with the intent to get a woman to orgasm or to get her aroused enough for lubrication. A pussy massage is about learning to slow down taking away the need for a woman to get to a specific goal. It's giving her the opportunity to be in the emotions of what exactly is coming up for her whether that's pleasure or whatever, without needing to change or be anything different. It can be an extremely healing experience for a couple to interact with a woman's body with this intention. The pussy massage invites both the couple to consider penetration as a possibility rather than a given - something that most women never get to experience autonomously. There are many different strokes and ways of touching her that will likely be different for both of you, opening up new approaches to touch.
How long will I have access to the content for?
My commitment is to have the content for a minimum of a year. However my goal is to have it available for as long as I’m doing this work and there is the internet. I prefer to under promise and over deliver.
Why do you interview men?
Much of my work with women and in women’s spaces is bridging the gap of misunderstanding between the two sexes. Learning about men’s journeys, their fears and desires has helped me to heal my own personal relationship with men, how I interact with them and also see them as the same as me, with the same wants and needs. For the men listening to the shares, my hope that it enables them to explore their own relationship to their sexuality, masculinity and their bodies and feel validated in not being the 'only one' who feels like they do.
Will there be nudity?
None of the team will at any point be nude. Some of the material includes images of sexual anatomy. Any nude images, anatomical drawings, descriptions of sexual acts and practices are meant to educate and are not provided for the purpose of arousal. The container is sex positive, so if you do experience arousal it is understood that this is also healthy.
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