He wants to know how to meet her in the way she deeply desires.
Performance and pressure are what keep a man from fully feeling.
The many masks he wears to make life work.
The self-talk on how to be and do better.
And in all that there is this deep desire to move from the head, the thoughts, the fantasies and really feel. Because he knows feeling is where he can meet his partner.
A touch that speaks to him being desired, seen, noticed by her.
He longs to feel ‘chosen’, valued, respected by her.
He wants to know what it feels like to be able to receive - without pressure. Without transaction. With full permission.
And here is where his journey begins.
Under your hands you get to take him on a journey deeper into himself. He gets to meet the parts of him that have craved to relax and receive.
This is his journey to unravelling.
Many men carry tension, performance pressure and unspoken expectations around intimacy.
Unravel Him teaches you how to guide him out of his head and back into his body through grounding, intentional touch that builds trust and closeness.
And this is not one-sided.
As you give, you also learn:
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The anatomy of male arousal and relaxation
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How men emotionally experience being touched
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How to create safety without pressure
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How to lead intimacy with calm confidence
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How to communicate about desire, comfort and experience afterwards
You’ll hear men speak openly in interviews about their own journeys with vulnerability, pleasure and connection helping you understand what often goes unspoken.
Inside the course:
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A guided sensual intimate massage practice
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Education on male arousal and pleasure pathways
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Real male perspectives and experiences
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Practices that support you both to feel more connected, relaxed and safe
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Communication exercises for deeper emotional intimacy
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Support around emotions and sensations language
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Journalling prompts
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Web based discussion forum
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A personalised 30 minute call with Carla Crivaro for advice, support or reflections.
This isn’t about technique alone.
It’s about helping him feel safe enough to fully receive.
Through my 1-1 work coaching men online...
I guide them back to their rooted sense of power and connection to self. To rebuild the trust in what it means for them to be a man in today’s modern world where there are so many mixed messages of what’s expected of them. My 1-1 work with men builds their confidence in who they are, what they want and how to ask for it. I teach them how to embody grounded presence so they can hold space for their partners without fixing or diminishing them. After working with me, men learn what it means to take a breath, pause, feel into their truth and then speak from there.
Course Outline
This is a self-study course which can be done at your own pace. With a total of four modules, one module is released each week. You can move through the content as slowly as you like and you are invited to revisit the content as new layers of conditioning and patterns unfold.
MODULE 1: WELCOME & INTENTION
You are welcomed to the course and given guidance on how to use it, what the benefits are for couples and for understanding male sexuality and pleasure. You are invited to explore individual and joint intentions through intimate communication exercises designed for you to take your initial steps into vulnerability.
MODULE 2: MALE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE
In this module you are invited to explore the male anatomy of pleasure. Understanding the various parts of the male genitalia can, for both men and women, open up the possibility to discover where pleasure can be found in ways not considered or in different capacities. Sex, intimacy and relationship experts share their personal journeys with their own individual relationships to their bodies.
MODULE 3: PENIS MASSAGE
The penis massage is an opportunity for both men and women to remove the goal-oriented sex of erection and ejaculation and to experience what it means to be present in pleasure. The communication exercises accompanying this practice enable both partners to bring awareness to their own conditioning around sex and where they feel limited in their current sexual experiences.
MODULE 4: THANK YOU & NEXT STEPS
This module invites you to reflect on your journey during this mini-course and how you would like to as individuals or as a couple explore further your sexuality. This module unlocks offers and discounts on my other offerings and you get to book in your 30 minute conversation with me for extra support and guidance.
Investment will be £148. Introductory pricing NOW for the month of February:
£98
(Pssst, Before you buy, if you get the Unravel Her & Unravel Him bundle (Unravelling) it's £158 - save £38 compared to £196 when purchased separately.)
If you feel nervous about offering this kind of touch… you’re not alone.
For many women, the hesitation isn’t about massage.
It’s about vulnerability, safety and what it might mean.
You might be wondering…
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“What if I do it wrong?”
You don’t want to feel clumsy, inexperienced or like you have to perform. -
“What if he expects more than I’m ready for?”
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“What if I feel self-conscious?”
Being the one who initiates can feel more exposing than receiving. -
“What if emotions come up?”
Slowing down and creating real intimacy can open feelings you don’t normally sit with. -
“What if he doesn’t respond how I hope?”
You want your effort to be met, felt and appreciated. -
“Am I even ‘this kind’ of woman?”
Many of us carry quiet shame or conditioning around owning our sensual side.
Underneath most of this is one core question:
“Will I still feel safe, respected and in control if I open like this?”
This course is designed with that in mind.
You’re not just learning techniques.
You’re learning how to:
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Communicate boundaries and desires clearly
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Move at a pace that feels good for you
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Create safety for both of you
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Stay connected to your body instead of performing
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Offer touch from confidence and not pressure
This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about feeling comfortable being more of yourself.
FAQs
How is a penis massage different to a handjob?
A handjob is normally with the intent to get a man erect or get him to orgasm or ejaculate. A penis massage is about learning to slow down the contact with a man's genitals, taking away the need for a man to 'perform' giving him the opportunity to be in his pleasure and present with whatever is coming up for him without needing to change or be anything different. It can be an extremely healing experience for a couple to interact with a man's genitals from this perspective. The penis massage spends quite some time focusing on strokes while the penis is flaccid to support the couple in relating to a flaccid penis in a positive way instead of there being 'something wrong'. There are many different strokes and ways of touching the penis and genitals that will likely be different for both of you, opening up new approaches to touch.
How long will I have access to the content for?
My commitment is to have the content for a minimum of a year. However my goal is to have it available for as long as I’m doing this work and there is the internet. I prefer to under promise and over deliver.
Why do you interview men?
Much of my work with women and in women’s spaces is bridging the gap of misunderstanding between the two sexes. Learning about men’s journeys, their fears and desires has helped me to heal my own personal relationship with men, how I interact with them and also see them as the same as me, with the same wants and needs. For the men listening to the shares, my hope that it enables them to explore their own relationship to their sexuality, masculinity and their bodies and feel validated in not being the 'only one' who feels like they do.
Will there be nudity?
None of the team will at any point be nude. Some of the material includes images of sexual anatomy. Any nude images, anatomical drawings, descriptions of sexual acts and practices are meant to educate and are not provided for the purpose of arousal. The container is sex positive, so if you do experience arousal it is understood that this is also healthy.
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