She wants to experience your full presence, your attentive touch that melts her heart and invites her to open.
She wants to let go of the trying. Trying to make him feel good, trying to build his confidence.
She wants to feel at the hands of her man cherished, desire and connected.
She wants to know what softeners, surrender and opening feels like.
The full letting go of it all and being witnessed and held through through the full spectrum of her sexual wildness, femininity and heart.
She wants to experience hands that are confident in their touch, to feel ravished while he remains connected to his heart.
And with your touch you can meet the parts of her heart that go unsung and feel the softness of her skin shudder as you create space for her to fully open.
This is her journey to unravelling.
Most men are taught to rush intimacy. To get to the finish line. To hit the goal. To do a good job.
Very few are shown how to slow a woman’s nervous system down so she can truly open.
Unravel Her teaches you how to guide her from tension into relaxation, from thinking into feeling, from guarded into receptive… through intentional, confident touch.
But this isn’t just about giving.
When you learn to give this kind of massage, you also:
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Develop emotional attunement
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Understand the anatomy of female arousal
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Learn how her body responds to safety and presence
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Build confidence instead of guessing
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Experience deeper connection, not performance pressure
You’ll also be guided through communication exercises so the two of you can talk about desires, comfort and experiences afterwards. Building intimacy beyond the physical.
Inside the course:
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Step-by-step sensual massage guidance
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Education on female arousal and response
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Interviews with men sharing their real journeys of learning
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Practices that help you both feel safe, open, and connected
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Communication practices to learn more about each other with intention
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Support around emotions and sensations language
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Journalling prompts
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Web based discussion forum
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A personalised 30 minute call with Carla Crivaro for advice, support or reflections.
This is about becoming the man she can relax with, not impress.
Through my 1-1 and group work with women...
I guide them back to feeling, to trusting themselves, to listening to their deepest desires in sex, love and relationships and then building the confidence to ask for it. I guide them back to their power and magnetism, not through performance or pretence, but through a truly embodied feeling of aliveness and expansiveness that they get to feel every single day. I guide women through the shame of social pressures and conditioning back to being a sexual woman committed to her own pleasure, fun and creativity.
Course Outline
This is a self-study course which can be done at your own pace. With a total of four modules which are release at a gradual pace. You can move through the content as slowly as you like and you are invited to revisit the content as new layers of conditioning and patterns unfold.
MODULE 1: WELCOME & INTENTION
You are welcomed to the course and given guidance on how to use it, what the benefits are for couples and for understanding female sexuality and pleasure. You are invited to explore individual and joint intentions through intimate communication exercises designed for you to take your initial steps into vulnerability.
MODULE 2: FEMALE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE
In this module you are invited to explore the female anatomy of pleasure. Understanding the various parts of the female anatomy of arousal can, for both men and women, open up the possibility to discover where pleasure can be found in ways not considered or in different capacities. Sex, intimacy and relationship experts share their personal journeys with their own individual relationships to women's pleasure.
MODULE 3: PUSSY MASSAGE
The pussy massage is an opportunity for both men and women to remove the goal-oriented sex of orgasm and performance to please and to experience what it means to be present in pleasure. The communication exercises accompanying this practice enable both partners to bring awareness to their own conditioning around sex, female orgasm and where they feel limited in their current sexual experiences.
MODULE 4: THANK YOU & NEXT STEPS
This module invites you to reflect on your journey during this mini-course and how you would like to as individuals or as a couple explore further your sexuality. This module unlocks offers and discounts on my other offerings. It is at this stage that you get 1-1 call with Carla to discuss any challenges or desires that came up for you and further guidance if needed.
Investment will be £148. Introductory pricing NOW for the month of February of
£98
(Pssst, Before you buy, if you get the Unravel Her & Unravel Him bundle (Unravelling) it's £158 - save £38 compared to £196 when purchased separately.)
If you feel nervous about giving this kind of touch… that’s normal.
For many men, the hesitation isn’t about desire.
It’s about pressure, performance and the fear of getting it wrong.
You might be wondering…
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“What if I don’t know what I’m doing?”
You don’t want to feel inexperienced or like you’re fumbling. -
“What if I can’t read her body properly?”
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“What if she feels awkward or uncomfortable?”
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“What if this creates pressure to ‘finish’ a certain way?”
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“What if I lose confidence halfway through?”
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“Am I supposed to just ‘know’ how to do this?”
Most men were never actually taught how to create slow, connected sensual experiences.
Underneath most of this is one core concern:
“How do I lead intimately without feeling like I have to perform?”
This course is built for that exact space.
You’re not just learning moves.
You’re learning how to:
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Read her responses with confidence
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Create safety and relaxation before arousal
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Stay grounded in your body instead of your head
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Lead slowly, without pressure or expectation
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Make intimacy feel connected, not mechanical
This isn’t about being a 'better performer.’
It’s about becoming a more attuned, confident and present partner.
FAQs
How is a pussy massage different to 'fingering'?
'Fingering' is normally with the intent to get a woman to orgasm or to get her aroused enough for lubrication. A pussy massage is about learning to slow down taking away the need for a woman to get to a specific goal. It's giving her the opportunity to be in the emotions of what exactly is coming up for her whether that's pleasure or whatever, without needing to change or be anything different. It can be an extremely healing experience for a couple to interact with a woman's body with this intention. The pussy massage invites both the couple to consider penetration as a possibility rather than a given - something that most women never get to experience autonomously. There are many different strokes and ways of touching her that will likely be different for both of you, opening up new approaches to touch.
How long will I have access to the content for?
My commitment is to have the content for a minimum of a year. However my goal is to have it available for as long as I’m doing this work and there is the internet. I prefer to under promise and over deliver.
Why do you interview men?
Much of my work with women and in women’s spaces is bridging the gap of misunderstanding between the two sexes. Learning about men’s journeys, their fears and desires has helped me to heal my own personal relationship with men, how I interact with them and also see them as the same as me, with the same wants and needs - we just have different ways of getting them met. For the men listening to the shares, my hope that it enables them to explore their own relationship to their sexuality, masculinity and women's bodies and women's pleasure and feel validated in not being the 'only one' who feels like they do.
Will there be nudity?
None of the team will at any point be nude. Some of the material includes images of sexual anatomy. Any nude images, anatomical drawings, descriptions of sexual acts and practices are meant to educate and are not provided for the purpose of arousal. The container is sex positive, so if you do experience arousal it is understood that this is also healthy.
