My experience of oral sex used to be...
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It didn't excite me.
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It felt like a chore rather than something I genuinely wanted to do.
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I got bored and would count the minutes until it's over.
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I would carry on long after I had had enough.
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I was stuck in my head, overthinking everything.
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I was constantly wondering whether he's enjoying it.
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I would feel unsure of what to do and lack confidence.
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I would do it out of obligation rather than desire.
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I would say yes to things I didn't actually enjoy.
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I used to feel like I was being used.
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I would struggle to find positions that felt comfortable for both of us.
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I would wait for him to ask instead of wanting to initiate.
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I would do it to feel wanted, loved or enough.
What giving oral sex actually became for me was...
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Genuinely enjoying giving it.
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Feeling confident, relaxed and completely at ease.
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Feeling sexy, powerful and deeply feminine.
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Being turned on by the experience and feeling his pleasure without second-guessing myself.
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I feel in control of my own experience.
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I feel empowered to ask for what I want and honour my boundaries.
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I feel free, uninhibited and fully expressed.
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I know exactly how to pleasure him in a way that feels authentic to me.
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It's a deeply erotic and slutty experience for me in a way that is empowering.
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I initiate because the desire comes from within.
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It feels like an act of devotion, intimacy and connection and no longer obligation - I do it when I want to because it's hot for me.
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It feels playful and exciting.
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I take him in my mouth for my pleasure, curiosity and enjoyment and when he asks for something specific I feel confident in my 'yes' or 'no - which means he knows that if I am there, I want to be there which is a huge turn on for him.
This isn't about HIM.
Too often women are wanting and doing things for his approval and to be chosen.
This is about your relationship to the identity of the woman who loves to give head.
This is decentering men from the process and reigniting the connection to the part of you that is erotic and free, for me, this was my inner-slut.
15 reasons NOT to focus on technique and what to do instead
What I did for myself and what you will learn in this course you'll learn...
​By the end of this experience, just like I did, you'll begin to:
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Uncover and release the beliefs, shame and conditioning that have shaped your relationship with giving oral sex.
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Reconnect with the confident, sensual, sexually empowered woman who already exists within you.
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Embody greater confidence and self-trust that extends beyond the bedroom into your relationships, career and everyday life.
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Understand male anatomy, arousal and desire with greater confidence and curiosity.
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Discover your authentic turn-ons, turn-offs and boundaries - separate from obligation, performance or people-pleasing.
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Communicate your desires, boundaries and preferences with confidence and ease.
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Experience giving pleasure as an act of connection, presence and devotion, rather than pressure or performance.
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Feel more relaxed, playful and present during intimate experiences.
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Develop the confidence to initiate intimacy from genuine desire rather than obligation.
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Create a more honest, connected and mutually satisfying intimate relationship(s).
The Team
Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Experts From Across The Globe
All great things have a great team behind them.
Introducing you to the main contributors to this course - collaborating with some of the most experienced and top people in their respective fields. These people share their knowledge, personal experience and journeys to educate, inform and inspire you on your own sexual journey to empowerment and in understanding your relationship to men, oral sex, your conditioning, power and men's bodies.
"Many of us have a lot of baggage when it comes to oral sex, I know I certainly did. That is why I am more than happy to contribute to and recommend Carla's course. In addition to suggesting fun and interesting sexual techniques, Carla is focussing on shifting participants' approach to sex. I personally believe that this is where the real transformation takes place. Changing the way you relate to sex and your own sexuality is such a pivotal part of personal and sexual development, which is why I think Carla's course will have a profound impact on the people who participate."
Cam Fraser
“Carla’s Blowjob course teaches women how to shift their mindset around giving pleasure to the men in their life. Women have been historically conditioned into servitude, and then "feminized" out of it -- leaving many women confused with how to relate to many sex acts, especially blowjobs. Carla does an excellent job shifting our perspective and invites us to consider how to touch for our own pleasure. If you've been hesitant to give a blowjob, either because it's "improper" or "below you," this course is for you!”
Angela Dawn
“I jumped at the opportunity to speak as a guest on Carla Crivaro's online course 'Queen of Blowjobs,' as I was particularly impressed with the emphasis on helping participants navigate shame and understand male sexuality and masculinity. Carla's approach is both compassionate and informative, and she provides a safe space for individuals to explore their own sexual identities and experiences. I believe this is a crucial aspect of the course, as shame and stigma can often prevent people from fully enjoying their sexual lives. I have no doubt that through her expertise and guidance, Carla will help the course participants not only develop their skills in oral sex but also cultivate a healthier and more positive relationship with their bodies and their sexuality as well as gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.”
Mat Wakeham
“I’m so honoured to be a contributor to Carla’s ‘Head With Heart' course. There is so much joy in giving oral pleasure to our partner, as men we have had the privilege of never having been taught to be ashamed of it. This course isn’t just about giving better blowjobs, it’s about women’s right to experience this joy as well without shame or judgement. Everyone deserves to love going down!”
Chad Nielson
"The work that Carla is doing is vital to bring more understanding between men and women. Too often, men sit with men complaining about women, and women sit with women complaining about men. Carla, through her work, is bridging that gap so we can understand each other's desires, fears and needs. And this provides the tools that are needed to create, no only, strongly bonded relationships but also passionate sex lives."
David Chambers
Course Structure
This is a self-study course which can be done at your own pace. Each week a new content is released. You can move through the course as slowly as you like and you are invited to revisit the content as new layers of conditioning and patterns unfold. There are a total of 12 modules released over nine weeks.
MODULE 1: CREATING SAFETY & EXPLORING INTENTION
You will be learning how to bring your body back to safety when triggered. Exploring your intentions for joining and understanding what they are moving forward. You will be introduced to somatic work and how the body stores information about our patterns and behaviour.
MODULE 2: CULTURAL CONDITIONING
​You will access hidden feelings and thoughts around blowjobs. Words and phrases around blowjobs and your sexuality that have a ‘charge’ for you will be integrated to reduce or overcome them.
MODULE 3: SHADOW WORK
The parts of you that shrink, hide and deny that are unconsciously running your life without you even realising it are known as 'the shadow'. This module is about uncovering these parts, reclaiming them and reclaiming your sexuality and relationship to men. Men also share their own stories around oral sex.
MODULE 4: THE QUEEN OF BLOWJOBS
Using parts work to let go of old beliefs and initiate new ones. The Queen Of Blowjobs is the part of you that feels sexy and sexually self-assured especially when it comes to giving head - wear that crown with confidence! Learn how to embody your Queen Of Blowjobs.
MODULE 5: MALE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE
A lot of women's struggles with being with a man is understanding their bodies and how different and income ways similar they are to ours. This lack of confidence impacts communication and touch - not knowing what to do, how or where and getting stuck in their heads. Learn the male anatomy of pleasure.
MODULE 6: YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO MALE GENITALIA
Exploring how your body has picked up messaging around male genitalia from social conditioning and also around your own past experiences. This module creates the opportunity to overcome any negative patterns or behaviours. Men also share their own journeys with their bodies and genitals.
MODULE 7: YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO EJACULATE
Exploring how your body may have picked up messaging around ejaculate, its taste, texture and any stories you have around it. This is an opportunity to overcome any negative patterns and behaviours you may have around it that you are ready to let go of.
MODULE 7: YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO EJACULATE
Exploring how your body may have picked up messaging around ejaculate, its taste, texture and any stories you have around it. This is an opportunity to overcome any negative patterns and behaviours you may have around it that you are ready to let go of.
MODULE 8: TOUCH FOR YOUR PLEASURE
We have always assumed that touching other people is for their pleasure and benefit, what if touching another person could be your greatest turn on. In this module you get guided through a practice to explore touch - completely for your benefit and enjoyment - follow your curiosity!
MODULE 9: COMMUNICATION
Most of us jump into sex without ever talking about it. This module gives some guidance on conversations and what you can ask in relation to oral sex. If you know their likes and dislikes, it gives you greater freedom to be fully present in the moment and enjoy it.
MODULE 10: PENIS WORSHIP
Explore oral worship and how to make giving head sacred, an act of devotion. We can only ever truly give from a full heart when we are in our power and have grounded self-love and trust. Everything you have been doing up until this point has been in preparation for this moment. On your knees not from self-abandonment but from your inner-Queen.
MODULE 11: TECHNIQUES
Techniques give you an opportunity to pull from expanding what's possible when it comes to touch. This is last because focusing on techniques and 'getting it right' keeps you in your head and not in your body or pleasure. This module is to increase your repertoire and build on your confidence that you've already established in your sexuality, understanding men's bodies and communication. Of course there is a lesson on deep throating too - if YOU want to learn to do it.
MODULE 12: CLOSING THE CONTAINER
Although this the end of the course and the official closing of the container, I like to see it as closing one chapter to really open and invite yourself deeper into another. You can return to the course content frequently as new layers arise that request inquiry.
INCLUDED
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Self-assessment to see your starting point and to revisit your journey and understand your next steps for growth
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Conversations from men around these topics sharing their relationship to their sexuality, masculinity, bodies, genitals and women
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Support around emotions and sensation language
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Video and written explanations of why content has been included and how to do the practices
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Audio and video practices
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Journalling prompts
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Signal chat - a web based discussion forum to share your learnings, experience and questions
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Personalised feedback and support via Telegram/Signal
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30 minute 1-1 call at any point during the first 10 weeks.
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Opportunity to ‘upgrade’ to an online Zoom Q&A and group coaching (£20 for 1.5 hours, maximum 10 people on the call)
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Opportunity to have a discounted 1:1 coaching session around the content of the course. 50% off my normal coaching - normal investment £208, (T&Cs apply)
INVESTMENT £148
FAQs
I have sexual trauma around giving oral sex, can I do this course?
This course is designed to empower you to step into the pleasure of giving head. IF YOU WANT TO. This is extremely important that I emphasise this. The course is an invitation to explore your sexuality and conditionings around pleasure, sex and blowjobs. To step into your power and pleasure unapologetically. This course is not designed to heal specific traumatic experiences. If you have experienced a specific traumatic event(s) and would like to heal from it, please contact me at hello@carlacrivaro.com to discuss further. Once you have explored the past and you are feeling ready to move forward you may then want to try this course - if you want to!
How long will I have access to the content for?
My commitment is to have the content for a minimum of a year. However my goal is to have it available for as long as I’m doing this work and there is the internet. I prefer to under promise and over deliver.
What if I don’t have a partner to practice with?
You can still go through the partnered content and learn all the different elements and explore them. When you have a partner in the future you will then be in a position to do those practices with them. There is so much content that you can be working on in the meantime around your own sexuality and relationship to men that can be revisited as you remove the layers of conditioning and previous behaviour. When you do have a partner in the future this will be such a beautiful way to honour their body and your blossoming relationship as you will better prepared to understanding them, their relationship to their sexuality, masculinity and body. It will be a great opportunity to begin open communication around sex acts - enabling you both from the start to have healthy means of discussion and expression.
Why do you interview men?
Much of my work with women and in women’s spaces is bridging the gap of misunderstanding between the two sexes. Learning about men’s journeys, their fears and desires has helped me to heal my own personal relationship with men, how I interact with them and also see where they are the same as me, with the same wants and needs.
Why isn’t there more information around techniques?
There is A LOT of content out there with tips and tricks for the bedroom and how to give good head, this course isn’t it. This course is about healing your relationship to your own sexuality, your relationship to male genitalia and your relationship to men - when you have an embodied and integrated relationship to all three, THIS is when you begin to fully drop into what it means to experience pleasure and how pleasure can ignite your inner-power.
Why is this course for cis-women only and not for men or non-binary people who want to improve their relationship to oral sex?
I identify as a cis-gender woman and my journey with my sexuality and my relationship to blowjobs is through that lens. My niche is working with women who identify as cis-women and men who identify as cis-men. My training and my personal experiences are what enable me to guide and support people in this way. I understand that having insufficient training and knowledge around the lived trans person’s experience could potentially be damaging to that person and I prefer to work within my scope of practice for the safety of any potential clients. I have a network of colleagues who are much better placed than me to support you if you identity as non-binary or a trans person, so please reach out for referrals at hello@carlacrivaro.com. Please see my vision and values for my business.
I’m a man and I want to buy this for my partner, should I get it for her?
I think so many women can benefit from this course and if you feel that you aren’t receiving the love that you deserve around your sexuality and pleasure, it may well be for a variety of issues or concerns that your partner might have. Making the suggestion to her really depends on the relationship you have and how she might take it. What you might like to do instead is explore your sexuality together to start off with. So looking to have more connection and intimacy as a couple. I have a package currently that might be more appropriate for the two of you called Couples: Connection & Intimacy which you can find more information about here.
How does the group coaching and Q&A work?
When there is a minimum number of 5 people interested in a group coaching or Q&A session, I organise a Zoom meeting of up to 1 and a half hours. This is an opportunity to ask questions around the content. Get clarity on anything that isn’t clear. Receive emotional support and also coaching in a group setting. All emotions, experiences, thoughts, feelings are welcomed in the space. The investment for the group coaching and Q&A is £20.
How does the 1:1 coaching work?
If you require further support in the material whether that be understanding further any potential triggers or blockages, or you need space holding as you work through some emotions and realisations of your sexuality, 1:1 coaching is a good option for that. There may be parts of yourself that you are finding difficult to access or understand and would like further guidance and support. Normal investment for coaching is £208 per session but for those who have signed up for the course, they have a discounted investment of 50%. You have the opportunity to have up to 2 sessions. They are considered single sessions and not part of my packages. You will need to apply for these sessions within 6 months of joining the course and have completed them within a year of joining the course. These sessions are in relation to the content of the Head with Devotion course only. Each session is subject to the terms of the Client Agreement which you will need to sign.
What about safer sex?
Your safety in this course is important so please ensure that you explore the risk versus benefits of oral contact with another human being. If you are unsure of the STI status of a partner it is suggested to have testing done for the both of you. Please follow the medical and health guidelines of your country as infection rates and risk vary from country to country. Please take responsibility for your health. I am not a health professional and cannot make recommendations on what you should and should not be doing with regards to your health. All of the content is ‘invitational’ which means you can do as much or as little as you like. Please listen to yourself and your boundaries.
What’s the purpose of the Signal chat?
Lots of people have communities on Facebook, however, due to the nature of the content, it is highly likely that due to censorship around sexuality that the group could be shut down or flagged. As a way for you to discuss and share your journey with the other women doing the course, there is a Signal group chat so that you can share your own experiences. If you don’t want to share your number with others in the chat, then please go to the privacy settings and hide your number. There are community guidelines to using the chat to enable a safer space for people to share.
I already love giving blowjobs, will I benefit from this course?
This course has been designed to support women who would like to explore their sexuality, and who currently lack confidence in giving blowjobs or would like to learn to enjoy them but currently don't. If you love giving head and get turned on by them, this course is not for you. I currently have another course Unravel Him which you may find is more suitable.
Do you offer refunds?
Carla Crivaro does not offer refunds for online courses. The information provided is as clear as possible in telling you about the content of the classes and what you will be learning. Carla is committed to delivering you quality information and if you commit to watching all the classes and doing the practices, you will have some profound transformational moments and amazing sex education that will make a real difference in your life.
Will there be nudity?
None of the team will at any point be nude. Some of the material includes images of sexual anatomy. Any nude images, anatomical drawings, descriptions of sexual acts and practices are meant to educate and are not provided for the purpose of arousal. The container is sex positive, so if you do experience arousal it is understood that this is also healthy.
I'm Interested but I still have more questions...
You are welcome to read Carla's Letters of Erotic Devotion to learn more about Carla's own journey and why she created this course. Alternatively you can organise a call with her to ask anymore questions - hello@carlacrivaro.com
