Men's transition into fatherhood is underacknowledged, with societal norms contributing to feelings of isolation and detachment from the family unit.
Three common behaviors men exhibit when feeling neglected are withdrawal from family activities, passive-aggressive behavior, and self-abandonment to avoid conflict.
The importance of communication and understanding each partner's wants and needs is crucial in maintaining a strong relationship after the arrival of children.
The cultural understanding of masculinity often opposes men expressing vulnerability, yet this vulnerability is crucial for genuine emotional intimacy.
Stay-at-home fathers can struggle with feelings of having lower status, highlighting the societal undervaluation of the parenting role compared to traditional career statuses.
Notable Quotes:
"The easiest way for me to explain it is sort of like the story of where it came from." - Carla
"Men just haven't been considered in the emotional, the physical, the decision-making process as they transition from partner to father." - Carla
"Being really mindful that the role of the father is really important because men bring something completely different to a family dynamic than a mother would." - Carla
"How are you actually bringing up these subjects and how are you speaking to him? Are you treating him like a child, or are you actually speaking to him like an adult?" - Carla
Carla Crivaro is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, she works with men and women internationally to reach their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla helps men and women understand themselves and each other, sexually and relationally, in and out of the bedroom. You can reach her at hello@carlacrivaro.com.
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