A question I get asked is, “Carla, do you support people who are survivors of sexual assault, childhood abuse and domestic violence?” The answer is yes and also no. I’m not a therapist or a counsellor so I do not work with a specific trauma itself. I do not spend time with clients going through and unpacking the various moving parts of these traumas. I’m a somatic coach. I work with goals and desires. People come to me wanting something for their future, and, while we are wor

Shel Marie, Empowerment Coach, Global Speaker, and Founder of Shel Marie Empowerment, is joined by the incredible Carla Crivaro, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, Together, we explore sexuality, shame, intimacy healing, masculine and feminine dynamics, emotional safety in relationships, nervous system responses in love, and what it really means to move from performance-based connection into authentic desire and embodiment. This conversation goes beyond surface-level dating advi

There’s a general consensus that ‘nice guys come last’. I’m not going to deny it. It’s true. I’m going to share what exactly it is about ‘nice guys’ that’s a turn off. Not just for me but any woman I have spoken to. And if you are a nice guy you will learn what you need to do about it - if of course, you want respect and to be fully chosen in relationships. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt in my years of coaching, working with men and couples is that men want to be needed. Th

In this episode, I join Alice Dartnell, for a conversation that is going to make you reflect on how you’ve been showing up. We dive into the three feminine archetypes — Mother, Queen, and Temptress — and how each one holds a different kind of energy that we can tap into depending on what we need. It is not always about forcing, controlling, and pushing your way through things! We talk about boundaries, self-trust, vision, and why joy and pleasure aren’t distractions — they’re

Over the last few years I have had so many women in their 40s and 50s (and now more recently 60s) come to me. They want to feel better about themselves. They’ve started the journey towards menopause (or crossing it) and the decrease in oestrogen means they are more focused on themselves. While oestrogen was higher they would ‘let slide’ the things that bothered them in the relationship that were gradually building. But the kids get older and with changes in hormones they ask

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