Many women feel the benefits of using a yoni egg in getting to know their body better. Women report a better connection to their vagina and vulva. Slowing everything down and creating that connection women find that they are able to gradually work through numbness which can be a sign of the body holding onto past emotions or trauma. It creates a ritual to your self-pleasure practice and how you interact with your own genitals, honouring your body and all that you can give to her and that she does for you. I speak to women who have found their yoni egg practice has supported them in with their pelvic floor muscles and in doing so achieving a more intense orgasm.
So how to begin a yoni egg practice?
First of all I would invite you to bring yourself to a state of arousal, so caressing your body, breast massage, and any other types of touch which feel pleasurable to you. Ensure you have plenty of lube or body friendly oil and caress your inner and outer labia. Play with your clitoris, get yourself turned on.
Once you are feeling aroused and you can feel that energetic arousal but also you can feel that your vulva is aroused (swelling internally of the clitoris that spreads around the vagina), then put the egg to the entrance of your vagina and take a moment to tune into your vulva. Connecting to her energy and presence and ask her if she would like to receive the egg. If it’s a yes, with gentle twists of the egg begin to insert while listening to your vagina. What you will find, if you are listening and honouring your body, your vagina, if she's ready to receive will pull the egg in.
If it’s a no, continue with your self-pleasure practice without the egg, resting your egg either on your chest or close to your vulva so your body is getting used to having it as part of your self-pleasure practice.
If it’s a maybe, ask her what she needs for it to be a yes, honour that and then ask again. Once you have done what she has requested, ask again if she would like to receive the egg.
This connection is really important because when you come to be penetrated later with a partner, it is always best to check in with your vagina that she wants penetration. If not, you can end up with small ’t’ trauma that your body has to work through with a process called dearmouring. Dearmouring is releasing emotions, stories and trauma, in this case stored in your vulva, vagina or anus.
Listen to your body. She is always communicating with you. I invite you to approach your body with the mentality of ‘what can I do to support my body right now?’ This invitation is something to check in with yourself always, not just when it comes to penetration. In every part of our day we should be asking our bodies what do they need in that moment - water, food, a different seated position, looking away from the screen... A deeper connection to and listening to your body supports you in being able trust yourself and your intuition in all areas of your life.
Carla Crivaro is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, she works with men and women internationally to reach their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla helps men and women understand themselves and each other, sexually and relationally, in and out of the bedroom. You can reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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