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The Sex Lectures: The Search For Inner-Power

My ‘controversial’ article “BDSM, Conscious Kink & My Inner-Dominatrix” caused quite a stir when published.

It created a divide:

  • Where people could not get past the ‘shocking’ photo and reduced themselves to giggling and boyish comments.

  • For some there was plenty of judgement around how I should and shouldn’t behave and dress - ironic as the article is about power.

  • There were those to whom it spoke to their own internal struggle with power and how we may project that outwards.

It was the latter category of person who invited me to explore this topic in person. Alison Pilling invited me to talk at The Sex Lectures in Manchester. The ‘performance’ was recorded and is now online for your viewing.

The Sex Lectures are created and hosted by Promoting personal and erotic freedom of information for developing skills and knowledge for creating honest self-aware intimate connections.

The sex education that we always needed and the freedom to gather.

Choice, freedom and creativity matter.

Carla Crivaro is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, she works with men and women internationally to reach their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla helps men and women understand themselves and each other, sexually and relationally, in and out of the bedroom. You can reach her at

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