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BJs - Forget Learning ‘Techniques’, What To Do Instead

Updated: May 15, 2023

I see really frequently in magazines and on social media people offering advice and tips on techniques for blowjobs. Although knowing how to do something and getting guidance on ways to touch and where can be really informative and give us ideas, quite often, those of us searching for the holy grail of technique are doing so for other reasons. To give the best blowjob, what you need to explore first before even thinking about techniques is a whole spectrum of other things.

In this video I explore 15 reasons NOT to learn specific techniques and what to do instead.

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Carla Crivaro is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, she works with men and women internationally to reach their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla helps men and women understand themselves and each other, sexually and relationally, in and out of the bedroom. You can reach her at

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